Lu ailleurs #53

So here is my advice:

1. Properly learn the technique. Go to a workshop, ask an experienced person. Look closely, take notes (or a video). Ask questions. Understand why the teacher suggests the specific technique or routine.
2. Simplify. Standardize. In all the diversity of rope bondage, there are only a few principles one needs to know for suspensions: Tie-off close to the harness, tie-off close to hard-point, one technique each for Ring / Carabineer and Bamboo, how to create friction, how to manage a person flawless down, etc.
3. Learn / practice one technique at a time. Don’t get yourself confused with too many variations of the same thing.
4. Start slow and low. Start with semi-suspensions and then proceed with simple suspensions.
5. Keep it simple and clean. Don’t yet mess up your tsuri-lines, just because it looks better.
6. Seek for assistance at the beginning when you step ahead: a guided practice session, a peer rope, a jam – just any situation where you could call for help in need. And then: keep your ego low and call for help, if needed.
7. Stay on your level. Advanced Riggers or professionals often do have a different risk profile AND high levels of practice. What is „safe“ for them is not necessarily safe for beginners.
8. Observe yourself and learn from your mistakes. Be critical and try to find better solutions. Remember: The unsafe situations – aka the ones where actually nothing happened – are the basis of the pyramid.

Pour autant cette démarche est extrêmement personnelle, singulière. A chaque femme de déterminer la manière dont elle souhaite être regardée, abordée, considérée, touchée, aimée. A chacune également de savoir ce qu’elle va vouloir adresser à l’autre masculin. C’est pour cela que l’on parlera des désirs et non pas du désir, comme on parle des femmes et non pas de la femme, ainsi que des sexualités et non pas de la sexualité.